No matter your particular style, we all reveal patterns under stress. In this blog I’ll talk about ways to feel more resilient and create more resourcefulness in your stressful situation—whatever that situation may be.
Your style under stress may be to go numb; to be unrelenting in your pursuit of “the goal” and therefore never take a break; to do things in spurts; to get 75% of the job done and call it good; or to simply hope that someone else comes to the rescue.
I had the opportunity to look at all these things when my family recently moved out of our longtime neighborhood. We entered a new neighborhood, and with it, a new stage of life.
I was definitely challenged and simply overwhelmed at times, and the funny thing is that as I reflect on the move—I saw myself do all of these things at different points in the journey of moving. My autopilot tends more to be unrelenting and pushes me until a task is done. Moving is like a cosmic joke because there is always another task to do!
I utilized some of the methods listed below to keep me engaged, energized, and present to what was going on within me and around me. My emotions were initially sadness and grief, and as the move progressed they moved to joy. Because I had the opportunity to make the change with my full range of emotions, I could embrace the clarity of decluttering and celebrate new possibilities.
Our body, mind, and emotions often put us into auto-pilot in stressful situations. It is as if all parts are saying, “this is the way we do it because it has always worked before!”
But has it really worked? If your go-to style works, then your energy will stay consistent, your thinking will remain clear, and you will act and feel resilient.
If these things are not happening in a challenging or stressful situation, then the first step is to have the awareness that there may be a more resourceful way to go about your experience.
To feel more resilient and create more resourcefulness in your situation, utilize all elements of the mind-body connection to get you there:
- Doing the Cortices technique will keep your brain engaged and free from overwhelm.
- Keeping your diet simple and free from junk food will keep your stomach and digestive system free from processing challenging foods, thereby keeping your thinking clearer.
- Honoring your full range of emotions is healthy and important —make sure you have flexibility to embrace all emotions as welcome and necessary to accomplish change.
- If possible, time away from a routine or a stressful situation can be a lifesaver.
- Keep track of what routines, resources, and stress relief outlets keep you grounded and engaged.
Through my own move I was reminded once again of this important lesson: when it is time to roll up your sleeves and get things done—remember to take care of yourself.